Body Neutrality: Surrendering in the War on Myself

My aunt snapped this photo of me holding a lamb this weekend, and I made it my profile picture on Facebook. It shouldn’t be a big deal, but it is. I hate pictures of myself and usually try to release only a very carefully controlled image on social media. This photo is the opposite ofContinue reading “Body Neutrality: Surrendering in the War on Myself”

Five Things I Learned from my Grandfather

On Tuesday, March 26th, we lost my grandfather. I’ve been struggling with putting into words how it feels to lose someone who felt so eternal. He refused to act his age. He was so active and full of life, so present and influential, that none of us could picture life without him. My cousins andContinue reading “Five Things I Learned from my Grandfather”

One Published Year

A year ago today, Across the Formidable Sea became available for purchase on Amazon. In the year since it’s earned 22 reviews on Amazon with an average 4.6 stars. On Goodreads, it has 30 and an average 4.37. It’s been purchased over 500 times in more than 3 countries. My words. My ideas. It’s utterly humbling.

Breeding Violence

I am also not saying that men as a group are oppressed or underprivileged. Here’s what I am saying: We as a country are failing our men. By allowing them to act out in violence without consequence, by saying “boys will be boys,” by maintaining a culture that lets them believe they are entitled to a certain amount of success, we are failing them. By expecting them to adhere to a standard of manliness that doesn’t allow for open expression of weakness, emotion, or affection, we are failing them. By encouraging them to look up to men who are violent and emotionless. What else could result from this but disappointment, frustration, and anger?