In CB Radio code, 10-4 means “affirmative” or “understood.” It’s also our wedding anniversary.
Three years ago on this day, we stood in front of our families and friends and said “10-4.” I promise to love you, honor you, and cherish you all the days of my life. Understood.
It’s a given that you’re supposed to remember the promises you made on that day. But I think it’s also important to remember that the other person made them, too.
It’s so easy to fall into the selfish trap of interpreting another’s actions through our own lens. Expectations build up for the sole purpose of letting us down. We think, If he really loved me, he would have said the exact words I needed to hear. If he really cared about me, he would give me this thing that I want. My new vow is this: I promise to try to view your actions in the light of your promise.
When I’m having trouble loving myself, I’ll remember. When I am frustrated and questioning your judgment, I’ll remember. When you are tired and act out in stress, I’ll remember. When we are apart, I’ll remember.
10-4, Marshall Tucker. Here’s hoping we keep trucking for the rest of our lives.